What are YOU waiting for?

I came across this mural on the side of the Southbank Centre near Waterloo the other day: The Southbank Centre says this about Sam Durant’s artwork: The handwritten text originates from a placard used in the 1963 March on Washington, a landmark event of the American Civil Rights movement. Removed from its original context, the laconic phrase is open to interpretation. It might speak to … Continue reading What are YOU waiting for?

What nail-biting taught me about life

I’ve struggled with nail-biting for over 20 years. I don’t know when it began, but there’s a home video of me nibbling away at my sister’s baptism – I was five. I could never pin down exactly why I bit my nails. My mum theorised that it might be stress. Another potential explanation was boredom. All I knew was that if there was any white … Continue reading What nail-biting taught me about life

SUITS & empowerment

Series 7 of American law drama series Suits is currently airing on Netflix. I recommend watching it. (Power through the less interesting couple of middle series; the first few and last 2 are worth it.) Spoilers ahead! Why? The corporate buzz, the office politics, the loyalties, the plays for power, the deals cut, the secrets leveraged, the main characters’ indefatigable ‘There is no way we … Continue reading SUITS & empowerment

Emotional labour in 7 contrived anecdotes

One point of agreement between myself and ‘mainstream’ feminism is that emotional labour is a real thing. From my daily interactions with friends and family, it’s very clear that there are people who take initiative to facilitate the smooth running of gatherings and shared meals, people who think about what their friends and other halves might need or want in the short-term and execute that … Continue reading Emotional labour in 7 contrived anecdotes

How to overcome low motivation

There have been two periods in my life where I’ve suffered from severely low motivation. Both times, I have been faced with either indefinite or seemingly indefinitely long periods of free time, with very few commitments. Both times, I needed to use that free time to further a long-term goal. I like to think I’m quite driven and self-motivated, but what I found myself doing … Continue reading How to overcome low motivation

Growing out of role models

People I looked up to as a teenager included the following: friends who were actually nice to their siblings friends with better hair or dress sense friends who were openly loving and affectionate towards their families cousins with engagement rings full-time travel bloggers classmates who did more music practice people with jobs and independent lives rich people anyone who looked like they were excelling at … Continue reading Growing out of role models

Don’t be a lifezilla

lifezilla, n.: a person whose behaviour in planning the details of his/her life is regarded as obsessive, terrorizing, or intolerably demanding Brief thought for the day … In a previous post I wrote about being commitment-phobic and keeping your life options open. You never know when something or someone better might come round the corner! I think commitment-phobia is an illusory attempt at holding onto the … Continue reading Don’t be a lifezilla

When the world’s your oyster

You can do anything Reinvent yourself Have it all The world’s your oyster Sound familiar? These are the refrains of a generation obsessed with choice and freedom, and I’m their greatest proponent! I’ve reinvented myself once already and am soon to do it again (corporate world → philosophy → ???). Nothing whatsoever save my own will constrains my choices. There is no reason for me … Continue reading When the world’s your oyster